Words of Health @121205: You Could Tell When Lightning is Gonna Strike You

[Source: from an email I read today]

Sharing this useful information. It may save your life or others around you also (especially golfer and those go on hiking or those on hilltop for photo shooting).  Do not laugh and do nothing... get out of the area immediately!!

Be aware of such a situation

I encountered such a situation in Singapore at Seletar Reservoir Park's Tower during 1988. When I led a group of Cedar girls visiting there, we climbed up to the top and viewed stunning panoramic views of the waters and its adjacent greenery. While we were taking photos, a girl pointed at me and said that Mdm Lim, your hairs are standing up, I looked at all girls, their hairs have the same situation. As a Science Teacher, I knew  that an electrical static charge in the area which possibly due to the build up of an impending lightning strike and immediately instructed all must go down asap. I have relieved only after all coming down safely and quickly went back by our chartered bus. I never forget this incident !


During a tour in China, I encountered this incident at HuangShan (Yellow Mt).While taking photos, I found that the subjects in the photos had their hair standing straight up.  I felt it was strange but they also told me that my hair was also standing up! Feeling uncomfortable, we quickly went downhill. Immediately we heard the sound of thunder and then heavy rain...

If you see this phenomenon, quickly run for your lives! A lady who was admiring the scenery at a nearby garden suddenly felt her hair stood on end; at that time the surrounding tourists found this amusing, and her brother took a photo of her. Five minutes after the brother and sister left, lightning struck, killing one person and injuring seven. If you meet with similar circumstances in future while outdoors, immediately leave the area and look for lower ground, to avoid a tragedy.

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Note: The fact that several people's hair were standing straight up indicates the presence of an electrical static charge in the area possibly due to the build up of an impending lightning strike.

So as soon as you see people's hair standing up, whether static charge or ghosts....run to other lower grounds,preferably not around tall trees, water pools or any place with metal fencing or poles. Do
not hold any metals such as metal umbrella handles or walking sticks !
  
The lightning may strike you!

What is Love?

Thought of the Day @121005: Again, it is about Love!

On Dec,10 2002 I wrote once what is love about which says:
- If you love some one because you think that he or she is really gorgeous - then it's not love, it's Infatuation!

- If you love some one because you think that you shouldn't leave him because others think that you shouldn't - then it's not love, it's Compromise!

- If you love some one because you have been kissed by him - then it's not love, it's Inferiority Complex!

- If you love some one because you cannot leave him thinking that it would hurt his feelings - then it's not love, it's Charity!

- If you love some one because you share every thing with him - then it's not love, it's Friendship!
But if you feel the pain of the other person more than him even when he is stable and you cry for him - that's Love!

- If you get attracted to other people but stay with him without any regrets - that's Love!

- If you let him go knowing that he has to go but he doesn't want to - that's Love!

Somewhere there is someone who dreams of your smile and find in your presence that life is worth while. So when you are lonely, remember it is true that somebody, somewhere is thinking of you!

And then about ten years later; on Jul,12 2012 I wrote about love again which says:

Love...
- The first person I loved is God because no one can beat the love He has for me. His love is so true.

- No love is greater than God's Love.

- The last person I loved is Myself because after all when no one loves me, there is still me loving me.

- The most beautiful things in life are not seen but felt by the heart and soul.

- Don't try to understand it, because it is not meant to be understood but to be accepted.

- You can't control it when Cupid strike.

Branding love...
 - be like Nescafe (Open Up)
 - cause it is like Adidas (Nothing's Impossible)
 - then all you need to do is follow Nike (Just Do It)
 - you can feel 'Boh' (Share The Ummmph)
 - and take Coke (Enjoy or Make it Real) along with you
 - lastly, if you really like it, shout for Pepsi (Ask For More)

Sex...
- Don't cheat! If you're unhappy or not sure about it, just leave!
- Do it only when you're matured enough.
- You have the full control of it.
- Cautious! I'm not trying to frighten you but this is a high risk thing to do.
- It creates:-
 - diseases (STD, HIV)
 - pregnancy
 - unwanted newborn
 - 100% regret
 - suicidal

Only 1 Brand for Sex...
 - Durex (Play Safe... this is a must!)

"Maturity = Your age + intelligence + experiences"
"If you think Love hurts, then Sex kills"
"I don't care if you're black, white, straight, bisexual, gay, lesbian, short, tall, fat, skinny, young, old, rich or poor. If you're nice to me, I'll be nice to you. Simple as that"
"I fall in love because of love but I don't make love because of sex alone".

Now, nearly three months later, again this question pops out in my mind (why huh?... am I crazy or what?) I feel like repeating J.Lo's lyric now... "What is love? What is love? What is love?" *sigh*. Can't remember what makes me wrote the first two postings earlier but this time is after reading a posting at aNon's FB wall. It is about a love story between a 12yo girl with her 24yo boyfriend whom is her music teacher (link to the story: http://www.dailychilli.com/news/19162-model-12-loves-music-coach-24-splits-public-opinion).

What is your opinion about this love? This girl once wrote on Weibo saying "So many voices in my ear, I have never felt so calm and firm. I know life is lived only once, true love comes only once. I just want to express it bravely, live my life fully, study hard and sing happily. Seeing so many warm and kind wishes, I'm very touched. Thank you. Although I'm only 12, I know I must be brave to love".

Uh-huh! Brave to love - I like this sentence (at her age, she does sound a little bit mature hor?). In fact, in my opinion, she has the rights to love regardless of her young age but seriously not SEX. I respect Love! I had been in love before so I know love is the feeling which is hard to control. Frankly speaking I had been in love with someone whom I'm not supposed to be with, not once but twice. In the end, it is proven these are not True Love as in the end I am not with any of these two guys *LOL*. I gained and lost something, and I even laugh and cry from these relationships but the most important thing is I have learned and I am now wiser.

So...

If she is my daughter, (after seriously thinking) I would allow her and her 24yo boyfriend to go ahead be lovely to each other only if this guy could proof to me that he could love my little girl like I do and treat her like the only princess like I did. Only if he is rich enough to spend on my daughter like I do (besides for her entertainment, he must be able to pay for her eating, clothing, medical, studies, vacation & personal stuff). Other than that, both of them must abide with the the following rules & regulations (in 100%):-

 - no sex; not until she is 21;

 - no room for just the 2 of them at any time any place. Whatever they do must be at open place which can be seen by us (the parents) or with other adults around (their friends are not into consideration as other adults);

 - nothing shall be go beyond the law spelled for my under-aged girl, i.e. no alchohol, no discotheque, no gambling, no smoking, etc...;

 - her studies must be soundly well, if there is downturn from her academic results then that's it!


If they have go beyond any of the above rules & regulations even just once, there will be no second chance at all be given to them.


As I said above, you should only make love only when you are matured enough. If my 12yo girl thinks she is matured enough at her age, she has to proof to me that she is wiser than me. Even though she might be able to win the debate but whatever she had been through won't be as painful as what I had been through. The pains she has had is not even be 10% of the pains of what my sister had been through. Maturity is not coming from your brain or mouth, it gotta be based on the real life experience that you had been through and your ability to overcome each and every difficulties you faced in it.

If other mother or father (even if is my husband) does not agree with me, who cares? She is my daughter!!!

Cried In a Distance

Cries in a distance, I can't stop the tremble

I'm just awaiting my turn

Hiding will never save me forever

The gun gonna get me for sure

Dear God! I pray why won't you be my lover

Come to me and take my soul away

Like an angel would say

"Everything will be okay"

All I hear is three two one

The loud bang of the gun

And then slowly you'll be gone

Leaving me alone crying in a distance

All I feel is one two three

My tears start to bleed

Smell of flower under me

I feel sore, I scream, I fall and I crawl

Nothing Else I Can Say

Drowning by my tears in my heart. In fact, why should I feel sad for this is what I knew it would be? It is all about commitments that I have which made it impossible. In reality, happiness is the missing part. Please tell him that I don’t love him anymore. I’m punishing myself by not letting my tears flowing out.

So I can't tell him that I’m still missing him. For hatred makes me feel easier to let him go. When my heart is finally full with tears. Let silence answer it all!

I wanted to love him but my eyes are lying. Concealing my feelings are much more easier to avoid complication. I wanted to love him but rational is fighting inside of me. Could it be better if I let him go? Who may give me a good answer?

The poor thing now is I dare not to make a choice. Cause if I am reluctant to let him go, the victims are obviously us. When love is at an edge, it became so uncertain. Then, just let silence answer it all!

True Love or Infatuation or Just Lust?

Questions about love are timeless questions that have consumed mankind throughout the ages and are a major theme in many scriptures, tales from mythology, and literature. I think even a professor could not finish explain it to us within a day and I doubt he could give us the actual prescription to treat LOVE *LOL*.

Love defines as: 1) An intense feeling of deep affection 2) A deep romantic attachment to someone 3) A great interest and pleasure in someone

And, Infatuation is an intense but short-lived passion or admiration for someone or something.

Then, Lust is very strong sexual desire or in a nicer way, it is a passionate desire for something (hehehe) but it is still a sensual appetite regarded as sinful.

So, what is True Love about? Is it [Love + Infatuation + Lust]? Or [Love - Infatuation - Lust]? *LMAO*.

Whatever... I think for those who are: - under 18yo: do not fall in love with someone so seriously until you are no longer needed to sit for tests or examinations because I am telling you for sure it will affect your study. Just Love alone will do!

- above 25yo: especially those still have not been in love before. Taste it! You should start with Infatuation first then gradually add in Lust. Stir it well and serve while it is still hot! Love will comes it way after this. *LOL*

- above 30yo: and is still virgin not even have your first kiss. You may go with Lust first *LOL* but do it only if you are strong enough to face whatever the consequences will be.

Finally, the last and important thing to remember, if your love life does not turn out right. Give it a big boo and forget about it. Do not attempt to kill yourself, just let that dead love be buried and rest in peace. Say goodbye to it and move on! :)

C'mon - Wake up! There is no TRUE LOVE or FALSE LOVE because in reality it is your hatred at someone during the absence of love. This is real life not a fairy tale. In reality love comes with different packages which consist of happy, sorrow, sad, excitement, disappointment, and so on. Love it or not, that is the true love!

Happy Valentine's to Everyone out there.

p/s: Do you think that I am an expert in love? Check it out! *LOL*

Amor! Amor! Amor!

Cupid or Cupido (in Latin) which means desire, the god of desire, affection and erotic love. Is the son of Venus (goddess of love) and Mars (goddess of war). And his job?

By using his arrow to shoot a person or even a deity and filled him/her with uncontrollable desire. Cupid's ability to compel love and desire plays an instigating role in several myths or literary scenarios. In Vergil's Aeneid, Cupid prompts Dido to fall in love with Aeneas, with tragic results. (Source: Wikipedia-English)

To me, I think this time he did missed a cue and causing dangerous in love and the sensation of pain in me (*ooops*... ouch!) though there is sweetness in it (*LOL*). Hence, I did not ignore nor did I go to get immunization (*evil face*) at first. Somehow now I need his mercy and wish to quickly go through this pain and return to the correct path. Although others could hear my laughing, see me smile but I am totally lost in controlling it.

So, dear Amor, please hear my prayer like Jesus does and pour your mercy on me. Open up my eyes and unfold the blinds in my heart, for my ears are now open and listening to you. I am begging for a delicate love which I can not wait until my old age to come. Please only give me the true and the best one to be with.

Thank you!

The Unusual Feeling

It is the time to sit for a test again. Why so many challenges and tests on me? Dear God, do you think that I am really fit to pass it all? I am just too weak. I promise I will stay closer to you this time and won't be walking far from you anymore. You don't need to remind me to come back to you in this way. I am naughty but you do know that I am sincere, rite? So please spare me! I am so scare. This time the feeling is so unusual. Is the mixture of so many feelings inside. Happy, excited, nervous, doubt, danger, and guilty are all well blended in me now. I wanted to but it is not right to do it (rite?) but I feel so sad to just let it go. To own it, it is a sin. Even to think about it is a sin. The biggest guilt that I had ever felt. *Sigh* God, you see? Satan is disturbing me now. I will be sad, really feel so sayang to let it go but I want it good. Just take whatever off which you feel is not rite for me to keep. Go ahead! *no eyes see liao* :'( Please forgive me, and you should one day forget me too but I won't be forgetting every single little thing that had happen.

Something from Someone Wiser

This list is a bit long though, but somehow some lines are useful for us... read on!

1) Life isn't fair, but it's still good.

2) When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3) Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

4) Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch.

5) Pay off your credit cards every month.

6) You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

7) Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.

8) It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it.

9) Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.

10) When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

11) Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.

12) It's OK to let your children see you cry.

13) Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

14) If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.

15) Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; God never blinks.

16) Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

17) Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.

18) Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.

19) It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.

20) When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.

21) Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

22) Over prepare, then go with the flow. 

23) Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.

24) The most important sex organ is the brain.

25) No one is in charge of your happiness but you.

26) Frame every so-called disaster with these words "in five years, will this matter?".

27) Always choose life.

28) Forgive everyone everything.

29) What other people think of you is none of your business.

30) Time heals almost everything. Give time time.

31) However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

32) Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

33) Believe in miracles.

34) God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.

35) Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

36) Growing old beats the alternative -- dying young.

37) Your children get only one childhood.

38) All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

39) Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

40) If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.

41) Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

42) The best is yet to come...

43) No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

44) Yield.

45) Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift.

My Words to God @120517

I know you are somewhere out there And I know You are shining down on me from Heaven But I took Your presence for granted And now I think I am crazily wanting You back.

At night when the stars light up my room I sit by myself talking to You Trying to get to You in hopes You are just next to me talking to me too Or Am I a fool? Who sits alone talking to the moon?

I am feeling like I am being good But they are not appreciating my good deeds I used to talking to myself, which they say I have gone mad Yeah! I have gone mad But they do not know what I know Cause when the sun goes down Someone is talking back Yeah! You are talking back to me.

I do hear you calling I always look at the brighter side For, Lord, I know You will listen to my prayer You are all I had and eventually I will see You in Heaven.

If You Can't Run Away from Your Enemies...

I once believe if you really can't run away from those who hurt you, I may try to change the situation by befriending with them. I thought with a heart, smiles and loves it would be better than feeling bad and sad each time facing them.

BUT, I was damn WRONG! It won't works, it isn't better, it is only creating another chance for them to hurt you again. STUPID me *slapping myself*. They won't appreciate my pure heart to be good to them. They are taking this as another chance to "destroy" me.

Now, I strongly reminding myself... Do not even hope they will change, even they look like they want to be good to you I better not believe them. Guess it is the rise of Galvatron now. They ask for it!

Lastly, I'm the only person upon which my happiness depends. I could make the choice to be happy in each situation and in each moment of my life. If my happiness were to depend on other people, on other things or circumstances on the face of this earth then I'd be in deep trouble!

Don't Speak - 有苦自己知

If I do not speak up, would they know what I am saying? If I explain, would they accept it? It hurts me as the Chinese saying "哑仔食黄连". I just swallow the pain into my empty tummy and let my tears flow down behind of them.

They won't be bothering so I think I don't really need to tell the truth. They just need someone to be the scapegoat or finding a way to escape from be blamed. I am just unlucky this time for I think it is me they had chosen, so I was asked not to speak - 有苦自己知!

Maybe I shall speak lesser or don't speak at all. Maybe it would be better if I just don't tell, don't ask, don't know and don't bother... 我的天空为何挂满湿的泪,我的天空为何总灰的脸?