Thought of the Day @121005: Again, it is about Love!
On Dec,10 2002 I wrote once what is love about which says:
- If you love some one because you think that he or she is really gorgeous - then it's not love, it's Infatuation!
- If you love some one because you think that you shouldn't leave him because others think that you shouldn't - then it's not love, it's Compromise!
- If you love some one because you have been kissed by him - then it's not love, it's Inferiority Complex!
- If you love some one because you cannot leave him thinking that it would hurt his feelings - then it's not love, it's Charity!
- If you love some one because you share every thing with him - then it's not love, it's Friendship!
But if you feel the pain of the other person more than him even when he is stable and you cry for him - that's Love!
- If you get attracted to other people but stay with him without any regrets - that's Love!
- If you let him go knowing that he has to go but he doesn't want to - that's Love!
Somewhere there is someone who dreams of your smile and find in your presence that life is worth while. So when you are lonely, remember it is true that somebody, somewhere is thinking of you!
And then about ten years later; on Jul,12 2012 I wrote about love again which says:
Love...
- The first person I loved is God because no one can beat the love He has for me. His love is so true.
- No love is greater than God's Love.
- The last person I loved is Myself because after all when no one loves me, there is still me loving me.
- The most beautiful things in life are not seen but felt by the heart and soul.
- Don't try to understand it, because it is not meant to be understood but to be accepted.
- You can't control it when Cupid strike.
Branding love...
- be like Nescafe (Open Up)
- cause it is like Adidas (Nothing's Impossible)
- then all you need to do is follow Nike (Just Do It)
- you can feel 'Boh' (Share The Ummmph)
- and take Coke (Enjoy or Make it Real) along with you
- lastly, if you really like it, shout for Pepsi (Ask For More)
Sex...
- Don't cheat! If you're unhappy or not sure about it, just leave!
- Do it only when you're matured enough.
- You have the full control of it.
- Cautious! I'm not trying to frighten you but this is a high risk thing to do.
- It creates:-
- diseases (STD, HIV)
- pregnancy
- unwanted newborn
- 100% regret
- suicidal
Only 1 Brand for Sex...
- Durex (Play Safe... this is a must!)
"Maturity = Your age + intelligence + experiences"
"If you think Love hurts, then Sex kills"
"I don't care if you're black, white, straight, bisexual, gay, lesbian, short, tall, fat, skinny, young, old, rich or poor. If you're nice to me, I'll be nice to you. Simple as that"
"I fall in love because of love but I don't make love because of sex alone".
Now, nearly three months later, again this question pops out in my mind (why huh?... am I crazy or what?) I feel like repeating J.Lo's lyric now... "What is love? What is love? What is love?" *sigh*. Can't remember what makes me wrote the first two postings earlier but this time is after reading a posting at aNon's FB wall. It is about a love story between a 12yo girl with her 24yo boyfriend whom is her music teacher (link to the story: http://www.dailychilli.com/news/19162-model-12-loves-music-coach-24-splits-public-opinion).
What is your opinion about this love? This girl once wrote on Weibo saying "So many voices in my ear, I have never felt so calm and firm. I know life is lived only once, true love comes only once. I just want to express it bravely, live my life fully, study hard and sing happily. Seeing so many warm and kind wishes, I'm very touched. Thank you. Although I'm only 12, I know I must be brave to love".
Uh-huh! Brave to love - I like this sentence (at her age, she does sound a little bit mature hor?). In fact, in my opinion, she has the rights to love regardless of her young age but seriously not SEX. I respect Love! I had been in love before so I know love is the feeling which is hard to control. Frankly speaking I had been in love with someone whom I'm not supposed to be with, not once but twice. In the end, it is proven these are not True Love as in the end I am not with any of these two guys *LOL*. I gained and lost something, and I even laugh and cry from these relationships but the most important thing is I have learned and I am now wiser.
So...
If she is my daughter, (after seriously thinking) I would allow her and her 24yo boyfriend to go ahead be lovely to each other only if this guy could proof to me that he could love my little girl like I do and treat her like the only princess like I did. Only if he is rich enough to spend on my daughter like I do (besides for her entertainment, he must be able to pay for her eating, clothing, medical, studies, vacation & personal stuff). Other than that, both of them must abide with the the following rules & regulations (in 100%):-
- no sex; not until she is 21;
- no room for just the 2 of them at any time any place. Whatever they do must be at open place which can be seen by us (the parents) or with other adults around (their friends are not into consideration as other adults);
- nothing shall be go beyond the law spelled for my under-aged girl, i.e. no alchohol, no discotheque, no gambling, no smoking, etc...;
- her studies must be soundly well, if there is downturn from her academic results then that's it!
If they have go beyond any of the above rules & regulations even just once, there will be no second chance at all be given to them.
As I said above, you should only make love only when you are matured enough. If my 12yo girl thinks she is matured enough at her age, she has to proof to me that she is wiser than me. Even though she might be able to win the debate but whatever she had been through won't be as painful as what I had been through. The pains she has had is not even be 10% of the pains of what my sister had been through. Maturity is not coming from your brain or mouth, it gotta be based on the real life experience that you had been through and your ability to overcome each and every difficulties you faced in it.
If other mother or father (even if is my husband) does not agree with me, who cares? She is my daughter!!!
